GAMES FOR DEPRESSED COUPLES – GAME 5: SEXUAL BATTLE (PART 2)
The two begin as they normally would when making love. When they are aroused, they sit or lie opposite one another and begin to bring each other to orgasm using either hands or mouth—whichever they deem best. (Hand sex may be best for couples who have problems accepting oral sex or with achieving orgasm through intercourse.) In either case, as soon as the sex—of whatever kind—begins, the race is on. The partners set about trying to make their partner come first, and so each, of course, tries to resist letting go. The first person to achieve orgasm loses—and thus, of course, the person who causes the other to come wins. To spice up the game, the winner may get a prize—i.e., he or she will be the other’s slave.
This game will provoke feelings that have lain dormant. Some people, when asked to make sex competitive, will scoff.
Others will suddenly have orgasms with a vengeance, whereas they previously had difficulty in obtaining them. Still others will take great pride in getting their partner (their opponent) to come first. In addition, the game puts each person into a conflict: to win the game the participants must try to make their mate come, yet on another level, the one who has the orgasm wins. Hence, either way they are both winning and losing. The person who comes first wins by losing; the other loses by winning. This conflict is not present in only this game, but also underlies the sexual block itself, and is unconsciously present whenever the participants have sex. All this game does is bring the conflict to the surface.
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